#actually nonbinary

[lethroe-radicalised]

So to protect women and children from being seen by trans people in the bathroom, your solution is to have people legally look at everyone’s genitals?

That’s your solution? Srsly?

[queerautism]

Also yeah binary trans people are not my oppressors as a nonbinary person, but I don't think it's so terrible to say that sometimes some binary trans people don't quite get it? And often it can be alienating to be in a space that's very focused on the most common issues and experiences of binary trans people. I don't fit in and I don't relate.

[pixierainbows]

Pixie in game Fae Farm , nonbinary and nonverbal !

[jupiter-on-the-compupiter]

I feel like if I don't say this no one will, but you don't have to list down EVERY pronoun you use, you can just give out the ones you WANT to use.

I don't mind he/him used on me, I like it, even, but I use it in every language but English since it gives me more options, so I don't list my pronouns as he/him + everything else, I only give you the other options (it/its, key/kyr, ae/aer)

If you use she/they or he/they but dislike people only sticking to she/her or he/him you can just put they/them on your profile, give out the pronouns you WANT used on you and don't be afraid to switch if those preferences switch.

[thesudokukid]

Basic Decency AO3 Link

WC: ~67,250

Ship: Autistic!Connor/Autistic!Nonbinary! Reader

Summary:

A little story about how startling it can sometimes be to get treated with basic decency. Begins to favor Connor's POV around the halfway point.

You start typing again and what little you can see of Connor's expression looks laser focused on you and what you're doing. He's listening. You're not using your voice to speak and he's actually listening. And as you noticed earlier, he didn't even look over your shoulder. He's giving you the exact same respect he would give you if you were using your voice to speak. (Chapter 4)

[Connor] only just catches the quarter. Even a second later and it would have fallen to the ground. Icarus, he's calling that particular trick. After the story Ainsel told him about themselves. Feeling like an Icarus commanded to fly higher and closer to the sun. He won't let them fall into the ocean and drown, not if he can help it. (Chapter 13)

Tags: Connor/Reader, Pre-Relationship, Suicidal Thoughts, POV Alternating, Depression, References to Depression, Hurt/Comfort Not Beta Read, Autistic Author, Reader is Hank Anderson's Kid, Autistic Connor, Nonbinary Reader, Parent Hank Anderson.

The reference to depression/severe depression is "You can't kill me in a way that matters, I don't care if I'm alive", said by Ainsel, but as a memory. Connor was traumatized by it, not that he knows it. Expect it to be referenced somewhat frequently. Links for chapters not posted yet will lead to AO3.

Personal Question (Why Are You Apologizing)

Basic Decency (We're Being Watched)

OVERRIDE via ASIMOV FIRST LAW

And So, The Apple Begins to Fall

Things Are Looking Up

I Hate Her Fucking Aunt

Thank Your Lucky Stars

Believe Me For Twenty Minutes

For As Long As You're Here

False Spring, Real Spring

Complete and Total Attention; (Gifted and Talented)

Not Likeable, Not Sweet (The One With the Boxes)

Take the Risk (Finite Endlessness)

Thank You (Icarus)

Dangerous Clown (Death By a Thousand Cuts)

Breaking and Entering (ILLEGAL)

[bizexuals]

i like to think one day we’ll be able to meaningfully engage with nonbinary existence in our trans theory, instead of ignoring, tokenizing or making more “inclusive” binaries to fit those pesky nb people into

[nonbinary-vents]

being nonbinary is actually so funny because like. Everyone expects your gender to be this weird or alt thing? And I’m just here like… my gender is so normal. Literally the only thing about it is that my brain expects to have in between sex characteristics. It’s kind of hilarious whenever people expect nonbinary to be a revolutionary thing but really my gender is the most average thing about me

[mx-loar-tev]

I just wanted to take a selfie while wearing one of the t-shirts I just received that has been designed by @foldingfittedsheets (this one is purple with a running Ammy from the game Okami) but Sony the cat decided to crash the photo party I guess. I can't be mad, she's too cute.

I also have another okami t-shirt with an howling Ammy, one with a dragon in the color of the trans flag, one with a shark-Nimona, and another with a wizard lezard. There's also two others I bought for friends but it's a surprise so I won't say here what those are.

I know @foldingfittedsheets has a big following but in case you haven't seen their work, go and take a look and maybe consider buying them a coffee or getting their designs on a t-shirt or the other goodies they have on their shops!

Please support independent queer artists! But also the ones that are disabled, black, indigenous, neurodivergent, latinx, trans, nonbinary, fat, etc. The list goes on.

And since Sony the cat is on the pics I guess it's not unrelated, so: please adopt, don't shop. Support no kills shelters. Think about giving a good life to an animal if you have the means to. Don't abandon your animals. Don't "release" them in the wild. If for whatever rezson you can't take care of them anymore, rehouse them or bring them to a no kill shelter. Adopting an animal is an important decision and be aware of the lifespan of each species. Rodents have a short life, cats and dogs live longer, but some pets like tortoises and parrots will probably outlive you.

[ID: six pictures of Sabran, the original poster, wearing glasses with thick black frame and a purple t-shirt with a running white wolf in the style of Japanese paintings. From picture 2 to picture 6, there's also a tabby cat on the frame. The cat is giving kisses to Sabran and rubbing their head against Sabran's face, messing with the glasses. In the last picture the cat is looking toward the camera.]

[ariel-s-awesome]

Poll for they/them pronoun users (if it's one of multiple pronoun sets or you no longer use it you can still vote):

I'd love to hear about which reflective pronoun people chose and why so don't be shy about explaining.

I use themselves because that's what I'm used to. I'm fine with the plural form when a singular you is treated as a plural verb. (Ex: You are.) Themself just doesn't seem to flow right to me.

I'm also from Michigan so it may be a dialect thing.

[queerautism]

i can't take the whole "oh there's no such thing as a binary trans person we don't have any differences" seriously when i literally can't have my gender match my id. its not an option for me ever because im nonbinary.

i have never seen the larger binary trans community even talk about that, hell i see them mock us for getting excited about x being an option all the time but no one seems to care that we can't legally transition.

like yes there are a million and one hoops to jump through and shitty things to deal with but you have the option to do that, we don't and when we transition we have to make the choice of how we are going to be misgendered for the rest of our lives and it sucks and no one seems to give a shit.

Yeah, it honestly sucks a lot. I've mostly legally transitioned and I do prefer it this way most days, but as you say sometimes it really weighs heavy on me that I'm still going to be misgendered for the rest of my life in this way. It's been difficult to deal with lately. As far as the law and the government are concerned people like me don't get to exist.

I think some binary trans people absolutely get it, and I'm thankful for them. But too many get defensive or straight up hostile about this stuff and it sucks.

[tea-with-eleni]

It sounds so cliche to say that part of why I'm scared out of my mind about my upcoming hysterectomy is mommy issues.

But, well, it's kinda true?

Lemme explain.

So, when I was a kid, I had dental surgery. I had an impacted tooth, and my orthodontist wanted to pull it.

I did not consent to this. In fact, I vehemently and vocally did not consent to it. It was not necessary surgery. It's fairly common to put a bracket on a tooth like mine and pull it down and into position normally, no extraction involved. They wanted to pull it and later implant a fake tooth.

To do that, they wanted to put me under anesthesia. I was scared out of my mind of anesthesia, and had a meltdown in the oral surgeon's chair. My mother told me to stop or they would hold me down. When they did knock me out, I don't think I was fully unconscious. I had nightmares of the procedure while I was anesthetized.

Until that point, I'd considered my mother an ally, a defender. This was a huge betrayal, and one I have never fully gotten over.

I refused to have her take me to get my wisdom teeth removed. I also refused to get them removed under anesthesia or even a sedative, just a local shot.

My mom's going to be the one to take me to get a hysterectomy. There isn't anyone else, or I'd have told her to stay away again. Part of me is still a child, absolutely panicked that somebody will hold me down, will disregard my consent (or lack thereof), will force me to have something I do not want. Part of me does not trust my mother to help me protect myself.

I do want this surgery; If I could wave a magic wand and disappear my uterus, I think I would've done it when I first learned I had one. I've had dysphoria about that since I was about seven. But, I am scared to death that my consent will be violated. I am scared to death that people I trust will turn on me because they don't trust me to know my own body. That fear is clearly not unfounded.

Legally, I am an adult; my mother has no more say over my body, and hasn't for some time. She's also made a conscious effort to be supportive of this decision. My therapist, who works with probably about half of the local trans population, vouches for the surgeon. Having met the surgeon, I'm inclined to trust that judgement. The woman is an absolute saint, she was incredibly kind, and as a side effect of prepping for the surgery somebody actually noticed I'm anemic and actually fucking did something about that.

So. I'm scared out of my mind, I don't trust my mother to have my back, I'm scared of the nightmares, I'm scared of the pain, I'm scared of going somewhere I don't know and having people I don't know literally remove parts of my body. Parts of my body that have only ever brought me pain, yes, but still.

I've spent most of the day panicking.

I'll still go through with this, I think. Because I do both want and need a hysterectomy, for gender reasons, for chronic pain reasons. But also because... I don't want to feel this way. I want to give my mom a chance to rebuild that trust. I want to make sure that what happened to me as a kid won't happen in the future. It's better to have this about something that (as far as anyone can tell) isn't about a life-threatening issue than to make everything worse by having it about something that might actually be life or death. It's better to address this such that I have some degree of control over the situation.

But, oh gods, I'm scared.

[gorkaya-trava]

the nonbinary urge to change your name every three months

[jayishere3269]

Haha what a great start to my day.

Just a warning to anyone on TT, just came across an account (@ the_reasons_i_drink), which is run by a 'Grumpy Gay who calls out bullshit'.

Very blatant hatred for nonbinary people (the one I saw, at least. I can't speak for the rest of his videos), and summed up being nobinary to 'lol, privileged white woman with pastel hair wants to feel different' and said being nonbinary isn't real.

Odd, isn't it, how homophobia and transphobia can come from right in our own community. It hurts more, I think.

Just wanted to put that out there so anyone reading this can just block him so you don't see that on your for you page.

Not putting this out there to go attack him! His comments are filled with people agreeing with him. Just block and walk away. I'm just flabbergasted at how, in the year of 2024, this is still a problem for enby people.

Happy Pride Month, I guess.

[bizexuals]

there is something so deeply disturbing to me as an unaligned nb person to just see *so* many posts talking about nonbinary identity and forcibly aligning nb folks with either masc or femme identities.

like, if you’re talking about categories of nb identity, and *only* give names to aligned identities, how do you think we feel?

the silence is becoming deafening.

[nonbinary-vents]

Nonbinary discourse is so ridiculous, because the people partaking in it seem to make sure that no enben are actually a part of it. Someone will say something like ‘nonbinary people never transition’, argue with a bunch of non enben about it, and then completely ignore an actual nonbinary person saying ‘hey, I’m transitioning!’ to go back to fighting with the imaginary nonbinary person they’ve made in their head

[vaashtiveshka]

Love it when the local autistic group chat devolves into nonbinary-focused transphobia multiple times 🙃 Really great being part of this community that hates my existence